For the entire month of September, we'll be talking about Self-Care! (Because it's Self-Care Awareness Month.) Today I'm unpacking what self care IS, what it ISN'T - and sharing a few different ways to apply self-care to your life.
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What is Self-Care?
Self care is care that is provided FOR you BY you.
NO. ONE. ELSE. IS. GOING. TO. DO. IT. FOR. YOU.
➢ You have to be the one that decides if you need it. (and you probably do)
➢ You are the one that gets to decide if you deserve it (and you do!)
➢ You are the one that has to carve out time for it (and you MUST!
If you're not practicing self-care, you're going to get burnt out.
It's really important to practice self-care BEFORE you hit burn-out:
➢ If you learn the things that burn you out, and learn the signs of impending "doom", you will be able to head it off at the pass instead of yo-yo-ing. (For me, it's feeling a sense of dread about my day)
- As you become more aware of how you feel, you will implement self-care into a consistent routine.
Difference between Self-Care and Selfishness
Selfishness is being concerned with your OWN advantage, pleasure, or welfare above EVERYONE
SELF-CARE is about making sure you are OKAY so you can continue to live well (and that probably includes taking care of a few people)
➢ It's actually a way to be LESS selfish, because you're taking on the burden of keeping yourself well, instead of putting it on significant others.
➢ It can be a huge relief and help to relationships - because you can TELL someone what you need. (instead of getting frustrated when they're not giving you what you need.)
➢ Eases off expectations (Alex prefers if I'm just blunt ((NOT my nature!!)) and tell him what I need, instead of expecting him to just "know." Being aware of my own emotional/physical/mental state helps me be more upfront and blunt!
SO: How can we start practicing Self Care?
➢ Sensory Ideas: Noticing feelings/sensations. (Hot baths, cuddling under a soft blanket, listening to the leaves rustle in the wind, feeling the breeze whip around you while you drive, massage, feeling grass under feet, drinking a hot cup of tea/coffee and feeling the warmth )
— ALSO: I'm a feeler, and feel EVERYONE's feelings. So I can take on other people's emotional state without realizing it. If the kids are cranky, I'm cranky. Sensory deprivation to deal with ALL the feels! Radio off, etc.
➢ Emotional Self-Care: (Spending time with a trusted friend, journaling your feelings out, letting yourself cry if you need to, choosing a movie to make you laugh, getting counseling, chatting while snuggling with your partner)
➢ Spiritual Self-Care: (Start a daily time of reading and writing your thoughts. Listen to uplifting music. Head to a church service. Be CREATIVE. Write down some truths on 3x5 cards, and put them around the house. Speak truth OUT LOUD to yourself, walk in nature and notice creativity.)
➢ Physical Self-Care: (Exercise, go for walks, dance to your fav. music, try new sport)
— ALSO: things you "don't" do: Don't push yourself when you don't feel good, take naps instead of pushing to stay awake, get 7-8 hours of sleep, say "no".
➢ Social Self-Care: We NEED community (coffee dates with girlfriends, invite friends to dinner (order out so you don't have to cook), play-dates so you can talk with other moms, email/text a long-distance friend, find a group of like-minded ppl on FB.
— ALSO: Similar to the physical side, STOP spending time with people who pull you down and are consistently NOT good for you.