2 Truths about Comparison (and what to do about it.)
I was recently chatting with one of my best friends, and she was saying that she didn't understand how other women have it ALL together. I've felt the SAME WAY.
You might be following the "perfect couple"on Instagram, and they've got time for a date night once a week, regular vacations, etc. You see a "perfect mom" who's seemingly got it all together, and her kids are involved in all the activities, and their family seems to be thriving. Or you've watching a fitness-guru, with a body to DIE for, and you wonder how she's going to college, fitting in a job, and STILL finding time to work out and eat healthy.
I wanna share my thoughts on this, because...
Every. Time. It stops us from chasing our dreams. It sows seeds of doubt that we're really doing the work we've been called to do. We spend so much time second-guessing, over-thinking, and letting all the thoughts swirl in our brains that we forget to live our lives!
So, here's some truth:
You're only seeing the HIGHLIGHT REEL.Seriously. Do you want to post a picture of your dirty laundry pile, or do you want to post a picture of those cute new shoes you got? When you're following someone on Instagram, they are showing the BEST parts of their lives. Because, those are the pieces we WANT to share. They make us feel good, and often we're hoping they'll inspire others. So just remember that the next time you go scrolling and see something that makes you doubt yourself, and your ability to work/wife/mother/live well.
They have DIFFERENT PRIORITIES.YES. Newsflash: the girl with the perfect body makes working out and eating healthy a PRIORITY. And just because that's her main concern right now, doesn't mean it should be yours. If you are in the middle of potty-training a toddler, or working three jobs to pay off debt... then your priorities are GOING to be different! AND THAT IS OKAY.
So what do we do about this
MASSIVE issue of comparison-itis?
WE NEED TO KEEP OUR HEADS DOWN.
Here's what I mean:
When you're taking a test in school, the teacher always wants you to keep your eyes on your OWN paper. Not looking at other people's papers and cheating... not seeing how so-and-so is doing, or how far along she is on the test. It doesn't MATTER how someone else is doing... it matters how YOU are doing. Are you keeping your head down and doing your OWN work? 😱
WE NEED TO TAKE THE TIME TO FIGURE OUT WHAT AN INTENTIONAL LIFE LOOKS LIKE (for us!).
Sometimes we get so involved in what we "should" be doing that we forget completely about what we WANT to be doing! Do you want to spend your time worrying about how defined each muscle is, or would you rather focus on if you feel good, and not worry about the number on the scale? Do you WANT to have your kids in every activity, or is that not important to you?
What makes an intentional life?
The fact that we are INTENTIONAL ABOUT LIVING.